"why do you hurt me?"

"why do you hurt me?"  that's not the correct question to be asked.  the correct question should be, "why do i allow myself the get hurt?"  no one made you fall in love with him, so why are you placing a blame?  you let them into your world, your life.  so why should he get the finger pointed at him? 

frist of all, he is human.  he's a man, entitled to his own actions.  i'm sorry but if what he does attracted you to him he will keep on doing that.  however, you must also keep in mind, that what he is doing, while you are in awe with it, other women are also googling as well. 

secondly, if you were the other woman, do you seriously think he'll stay faithful?  with you?  are you serious!?  i hate to break it down to you baby, but if he's doing that with the woman he's with, who's to say he won't do that to you as well?  unless you're God, you can't strick him down with Zeus' master lightening bolt and make he be a one woman man.  you can't control him.  no one but himself.

thirdly, why do you need a man?  is it for the sense of security?  the warm body at night next to you?  the compliments he showers you?  or the gifts he gives you?  bull!  you are insecure and you need someone to help you with that.  i'm sorry if it sounds mean, but it's true.  you don't need all those silly things a man can do.  your friends can do you.  have you really looked at your friends and honestly say that you remembered when hung out with them?  like really hung out with them?  lunch?  dinner and drinks?  movie night and clubbing?  no, you can't huh?  i thought so.  where you are wasting all this time and energy on a man, you should be building the friendships with your girlfriends stronger.

and lastly, i'm sorry, but he didn't point a gun to your head after he lured you into a dark ally while your hands and feet were chained up against a dirty wet wall screaming you will be my girlfriend.  you knew how he is, yet you expect him to change over night?!  i'm sorry honey, but man can't change overnight.  if he don't want to change, he won't change, escpecially for you.  you aren't that special...unless you're married to him with like ten kids.  and even then, when he does changes, it'll probably be for his kids.  not you.  sorry to burst your little bubble.  when you met him, you knew who he was, so don't be thinking, that asshole purposely went out with his guys dispite of me.  no, you met is friends and didn't like them.  but those are his friends...not your's.  let it go.  "why did hurt me why cheating on me."  umm...apparently you're lacking something...or...he's just a lying cheating asshole, but you already knew that!!!  but you thought you could change that!  remember?!  haha yes!!!  you do?  great.  that's waht i thought.

so in the end, you should ask yourself when you find a man that you're attracted to, "will i be hurting myself after i learn him?"  because i'm sorry, you liked him, you saw what you want in him and you wanted to be with him.  but don't blame him when you start to hurt.  it's no one's fault but your's.  if you don't like him, just cut it loose.  there's another great guy with a great smile, great personality, and a great hot delicious body waiting to be blessed in your presence.